Living a healthy life isn’t just about what’s on your dinner plate or what you do at the gym. True holistic wellness focuses on your emotional, mental, and social health, too. That’s why I argue that it is just as important to workout your self care muscle as it is to get your sweat on doing your favorite activity (and as I’ll argue in a sec—maybe even more important).
If you tend to put yourself at the very end of your priority list, especially when that list gets long, that means you not only are neglecting yourself, but you’re also neglecting everyone who relies on you. It doesn’t seem that way in the moment when you take the time to make little Timmy a healthy breakfast before school but grab a donut for yourself because you’re out of time. But in the long run, if you don’t take time to fill up your own cup, you won’t be able to pour from it any more. You have to put on your own air mask before assisting others.
And if doing self care makes you feel guilty (I find this is especially true for parents), I’m going to tell you a phrase that was said to me when I felt this way a few months after my daughter was born. As parents, we’ll do absolutely anything for our kids. Except, it seems, take care of ourselves. YES. Taking care of yourself is just as important as making sure your kid has a clean diaper or doesn’t play with knives. EQUALLY IMPORTANT.
So practically, how do you go about including self care in your daily routine? For me, I have to make it part of my to-do list—quite literally. On most mornings, I get up and make a task list for the day. And right alongside things like “clean the kitchen” and “call the plumber,” I slot in one or more self care tasks. Everyday. They are just as non-negotiable as getting the dishes done or cooking dinner.
Below you’ll find my personal list of self care ideas, but I think everyone should make their own list of self care ideas to pull from daily! My list isn’t one-size-fits-all. For example, I know a lot of folks might put “go for a run” or “go to the gym” on their self care list, but those items just aren’t emotionally fulfilling for me, so I left them off. So feel free to add them to your own list. Enjoy!
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This is great Cassie. I agree people don’t focus on themselves enough. I know I don’t. Thanks for this list. I will print and post on my desk to remember to focus on myself too! Next up for me: massage! :D
Nice ideas! I had a beer on the porch with my fiance last night and it felt so indulgent and I had trouble really embracing it because we’re going on vacation and my to-do list is so complex it is turning into a sentient being.
My favorite way to take care of myself is to patiently, carefully pluck my eyebrows. Instead of just getting crazy strays, to take time and shape them. It’s relaxing for me. I’m weird.
OOOH, SO i AM NOT THE ONLY ONE WHO DOES THAT!!!!
Love this post. I need to pay more attention to my self-care. Especially right now when my stress levels are so high. I usually use regular exercise to help with that but I need to have some “Self care” i.e. pampering & relaxing too!
great list! I am bad at doing this too and then I get so worn out that treating myself ends up just being watching tv which can be nice, but isn’t as fulfilling as all self care can be.
i love this…and the whole idea of truly scheduling in time for your own sanity. for the past couple months i have been so busy i haven’t had a lot of opportunity for ‘me time’…but i do have a massage scheduled for tomorrow afternoon!!! so i’m going to take a half day, go to my massage, get coffee with my bff, and just enjoy the few hours of free time. i know i reeeeally need that time because this week in particular has been a huge struggle for me, and when that happens, i tend to just shut down. i haven’t been to the gym. i’ve been eating like crap. i haven’t planned meals. i haven’t focused on anything…i’m just running around all willy nilly with no purpose. and i haven’t blogged at all this week either (and i have several posts to write, photos to edit, etc.), but it’s mostly because i have just been feeling overwhelmed with the ‘everything’ that’s going on right now. i need tomorrow afternoon to regroup and get back at it. and then i’ll start incorporating more small things i can do for myself daily to stay on the sane side of things.
thanks for this! i really needed it today! =)
Interestingly, the self-care portion of my healthy life is the one that I find the easiest, sometimes to the point where I have a hard time balancing that out with the other things in life that I don’t want to do so much… I struggle a lot more with diet and fitness.
Same here, Nikkiana. I used to put everyone else first, but then we I developed a gluten intolerance, a vitamin D deficiency, and mono all within two years, I knew I needed a change. My diet is better because I was forced to get better and quit flour cold turkey. However, I still struggle with fitness as well.
I love how honest your list is – I love that you didn’t put go to the gym because it’s not emotionally fulfilling for you. Sometimes I get caught in the “shoulds” even with my own emotional fulfillment! I think, going to the gym will make me feel better when I know that what would really make me feel better is taking a hot bath. Hopefully I’ll be inspired by your list to make one of my own that’s really honest.
This is such an awesome idea. Mind if I copy you and make a post of my own?
Go for it!
This is great thanks! Items I’d add for me are *doing my make-up, *planning my outfit, *cooking something new, *having a belly laugh, *playing with babies
My husband isn’t a big reader so he liks to color on planes. :)
Such a great post and I couldn’t agree more!
I’m a big believer in cooking catharsis. Whenever my life gets overwhelming (read: my thesis is eating me), I head into the kitchen and whip up something fun and involved, no matter what time of day it is. It takes my mind off anything else I’m doing and it creates a delicious reward just for me and anyone I choose to share it with. Plus, this has led to a lot of 10pm muffin adventures, and you can’t go wrong with those.
Agree 100%! I love every single item on that list. I would add only one thing to it – having the house to myself for the afternoon…bliss!
Even just reading the list makes me somehow feel a little more relaxed – thanks!
What a great post! I love lists like this and number 4 is my favourite, particularly because I find just sitting so very healing, but it’s always such a struggle to make myself do it :) Thanks for the reminder.
What a great list! I really need to do this for myself!
I love to take the time to do dry skin brushing with a soft brush before taking a shower. And yet when was the last time I actually did that? Maybe a year ago?
It’s going on my to-do list right now ;)
Great post! I’m studying for my final exams at the moment, so I’m trying to make sure I leave time for nice things so I don’t completely burn out! This might be a stupid question, but what’s a mental health day? Is it a full day of doing all the other things on your list? I also like to play guitar and piano in order to relax :)
Hi Sarah! Yes a mental health day is just like a sick day, but for your mind :) I’m in the middle of finals too and sometimes your brain just needs to shut down for a day, do something lovely or nothing at all, maybe disconnect your tech for a few hours and just relax!
Great list! I love that you put coloring on here! My self care go-tos include warm baths and pedicures. I recently signed up for a gym membership, and a massage package, so obviously very physical outlets.
Oh, I love this. Good for you! :)
I think my favorite way to recharge emotionally is to read a good book. I’d also add “Watch Doctor Who, “go for a long drive to nowhere in particular,” and “free-journaling.”
Thanks for the reminder to take care of ourselves emotionally, too. You’re great!
Great read, Cassie! Self care is on my weekly list as well. We have to make sure to fit it in!
Just stumbled onto your post just at the right time, I tend to get swamped down with work and worrying about keeping my family afloat that I end up stressing out more and making it 10x worse.
Going to try some of these ideas that are a long time overdue!
I am going to add tips 1 9 and 11 now to my self care ideas.Thanks for sharing this valuable information
Hi Cassie. What a wonderful blog post! I will definitely be following you on Bloglovin’. Self-care is so underrated and I really loved some of your ideas here – the one about planning an extravagant outing is really original and fun!
If you, or anyone reading this, gets a chance, I would love it if you could check out my blog. I’m really interested in mindfulness, curiosity and making life more positive!
Can’t wait to see more of your posts :)
I simply love this and have incorporated alot on my list and added or changed a few of course for me. This is awesome, as some of the comments along with this makes you feel like you are not alone also.
Wonderful and inspiring post. Thank you so much for sharing it.
Love this list so much…needed it in my life. Why is spoiling myself the harest thing in the WORLD…makes no sense. In my 20’s life was grand and now in my 30’s I am having so troubles…I think this is the main core of it. How am I supposed to take care of my husband and kids when I don’t take care of myself. It’s blowing my mind right now LOL
Great tips and views on self-care! It’s so important to take a breath and listen to what we need, and often. Thanks for writing, keep up the awesome work!
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