Pregnancy Update: Starting the Third Trimester

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The “experts” out there disagree with exactly when the third trimester starts, so I’m just going to go off the math—two-thirds of a 40 week pregnancy is 26.666 weeks and considering today I’m at 26 weeks, 5 days—I’m calling it! Welcome to the third trimester, kids.

I am so happy to be in my third trimester. It hasn’t been a secret that pregnancy hasn’t been fun for me, and I’m thrilled that I’m closing in on the end. Yay! Yippee! Woohoo! I know a lot of people consider the third trimester to be absolutely miserable, and I’m sure it will be no different for me, but it feels a lot more manageable considering the short time frame. In a little over 90 days, this season of my life will be over (and a whole other crazy adventure begins).

The Nursery

We haven’t really gotten anywhere since my last update with the nursery. We unfortunately had a much bigger tax bill than expected, so a lot of our nursery budget is getting rerouted to paying Uncle Sam, which means we’re doing a lot more reworking of pieces we have and using hand-me-downs than we had originally planned. Such is life. That’s alright, I don’t think Baby J will mind!

nursery

We have a lot of big DIY projects that we need to really get-to-gettin’ on in there. I was desperately hoping that second trimester burst of energy everyone talks about would kick in, but it never came. So I just gotta deal with it and get to work. My biggest project over the next few weeks is sewing curtains. We ordered some blackout liner and beautiful fabric to make curtains to cover up the floor-to-ceiling windows in the room—because I can make nice blackout curtains for so much cheaper myself than buying them.

curtain fabric

Craig is in charge of furniture painting. Since we’re using a lot of hand-me-down pieces and pieces thieved from other rooms in the house, we need to do some painting and reworking to make it all work together. Right now, we have a red dresser, a light blue changing table, a black crib and a wood rocking chair in there. It’s a bit crazypants, but we’ll make it work with a few coats of paint.

Honestly, we’re not too stressed about getting the nursery “done” before Baby J shows up. She’ll be sleeping in our bedroom for the first few months in a bassinet, and then we’ll (hopefully) transition her into her room, so we’ve still got a while. Although it would be nice to have the room at least set up as a place to stash all of the accoutrements that come along with a kid.

Buying for Baby

We made the decision early on that we weren’t going to do a lot of buying for baby (especially before our shower in April). What we don’t get at the shower, we’ll be thrifting and finding on consignment. Of course, it can be seriously hard to deny buying some (keyword: some) of the adorable clothes and toys out there. We’ve picked up a few cute things here and there.

baby clothes

We also bought our carseat! After days and days and days of research, we found our perfect carseat and managed to find it on mega sale, too. So instead of waiting for someone to (maybe) buy it for us at our shower and shelling out a ton more money, we just bit the bullet and bought it ourselves while on sale. I also found the diaper bag we wanted on clearance during all my carseat research, so I threw that in the cart, too. I need stuff to stop going on sale or there’s not going to be anything left on our registry!

One of the biggest baby purchases for us is going to be a new-to-us car! We’ve been a one-car family since we were married seven years ago (minus a year where we had a second car that we barely used). It’s worked for us as a childless couple. But we both agreed that we’d feel a lot more comfortable having a second reliable mode of transportation with Baby J around. Craig works about 35 minutes away from the house, and we live in a rural area sans public transportation, so at the very least, one car would probably be a logistical nightmare for everyday stuff (going to doctor, etc.) and at the worst, could be a disaster in an emergency situation.

snowy road woods

Also, after this horrific winter, we made the executive decision that we have to own a four-wheel-drive vehicle to live where we live. Our car is great. And it does great in snow and ice—in the city—but not so much on our very hilly, very curvy, rarely plowed country road. Craig has literally had to call off work for entire weeks at a time this winter because he can’t drive down our country road (even though the highway it connects to is completely clear and dry). Now we just gotta find the right car before baby gets here! And every time I think about buying a car before baby, I think about this This American Life episode (the third act) where the woman is in labor while she goes to the car dealership to buy a car. I hope we find our car before I’m in active labor.

How I’m Doing

I’m still dealing with morning sickness, although nothing even close to what it was like a few weeks ago (it’s been an entire two weeks since I threw up—yay!). At my last midwife appointment, she told me I was one of the lucky 1% of pregnant ladies who deals with morning sickness throughout the entire pregnancy. I feel special! Although I would prefer to feel special for some other reason than my consistent queasiness. She also warned me that a lot of women who struggle with morning sickness see a strong resurgence in their third trimester because of all the pressure on the stomach. I guess the benefits of morning sickness never really going away is that when it comes back toward the end, I’m used to it.

Health-wise, my midwives are thrilled. My blood pressure is good, I’m gaining weight at a normal clip, and other than my consistent discomfort, I’m doing well. And so is the baby! She’s growing well, has a great heartbeat, and is measuring right on schedule. And she’s kicking and dancing a storm up in my belly.

I have my glucose screening next week—which I am not looking forward to. I’ve pretty much figured out how to keep my morning sickness at bay, and part of that is eating as soon as I wake up and not drinking any liquids until my breakfast digests. Drinking anything (water, milk, juice, coffee) before I eat in the morning is an automatic ticket to hugging the toilet, and considering I’m not allowed to eat 12 hours before my screening, and the screening involves downing a cup of sugary drink first thing in the morning (and then hopefully keeping it down for an hour so they can draw blood)—I am not looking forward to it.

Eating wise, I’m doing a lot better than I have been. My appetite is normalizing a bit, and I’m bringing back in some healthier eats. This week, I upgraded from white bread to multigrain bread! Victory! I’ve even eaten real dinners (as in, not cereal) a few times in the past few weeks. I don’t expect I’ll be eating kale salads anytime soon, but I’m thrilled that my diet is trending a bit more normal lately.

mac and cheese

My biggest issue, far and away, now (and has been since my last update) is my Symphsis Pubis Dysfunction (SPD). As promised by my midwives, it continues to get worse the larger I get. In my last update, I was saying that some days I feel mostly fine, and some days I can’t walk. Now I just have a baseline amount of pain that doesn’t go away. It’s hard to explain what it feels like. It’s not only pain, but it’s also an incredibly uncomfortable feeling like your legs aren’t connected. It feels almost like every time you take a step, someone is attached to your leg, trying to pull it out of your hip socket, and another person is standing in front of you kicking you in your pubic bone with a steel-toed boot. Pleasant, right?

I have found that a minimal (very minimal) amount of light (very light) activity helps me manage the pain. I have to be very careful not to overdo it, or the pain is can’t-get-out-of-bed bad, but getting up and doing some slow walking for 5-10 minutes every now and again helps seems to keep my joints from getting stiff. I also have to keep my walking to flatter surfaces—stairs, hills, and anything that requires me to be on one foot is extremely painful.

me jeans feet keens

I never thought I’d say this, but I miss exercise. Or at least I miss the idea of exercise. I miss feeling healthy and feeling strong. I miss feeling like I could trust my body to take me anywhere and do (almost) anything. It is so crazy to me that I was healthy and strong enough to do a 40-mile charity walk only a few years ago, and now I’m barely able to walk a city block without being in pain.  I think that’s the biggest emotional challenge I’m struggling with. 

I just feel…yucky. And I’m trying to do the things I know help make me feel unyucky (eating healthier, drinking water, moving more), but there is only so much I can do in my condition. It’s frustrating to want to feel good and there not being much you can do about it. I much preferred when I had the power to make myself feel better.

I know this sounds all really depressing, but I’m actually in very good spirits. Spring is around the corner, I have a healthy baby in my belly, my husband is incredibly good to me—life is good!

Names

Yup. We’ve got one. It’s the same one I mentioned in my last update. We love it! Although, we’ve made the decision not to share it with folks until Baby J is here.

j nursery

And you guys may hate me for it, but we’re leaning toward not sharing her name at all online. The online presence of your child is a very personal decision, and it’s something Craig and I have been talking about since we found out I was pregnant. Obviously, we have no way of knowing how we’ll feel about it once our awesome daughter is here, but our plan right now is to really limit her online profile.

Craig and I are both fine with our lives being out there for everyone to consume online, but I feel like part of my job as a parent is to protect my daughter long enough so she can make that decision for herself. Chances are, she’ll be all over the interwebs like the kids are now-a-days, but if she happens to want to be a more private person, we want her to have that as an option. I’m not saying you’ll never see a picture of Baby J or hear any stories about her, but I wouldn’t expect the same level of detail about her day-to-day life as you get about mine. This isn’t a commentary on how anyone else makes this decision about their children—it’s a totally personal, and we’ve figured out what we think will be best for us and our family.

This all being said, Baby J might show up, and we won’t be able to resist posting a million photos of her amazingness to every social media account we own. And considering Craig and I both have family living thousands of miles away, we might have to come up with a more private way (ha! privacy on the internet—like that exists) way of sharing photos and stories of Baby J with far-away family (locked down Facebook accounts? a private blog? old-fashioned letters and prints?).

Birth Classes

We have a busy weekend ahead of us. Not only are we headed to a baby fair and tour at our birth center, but we also start our birth classes this weekend! There are a ton of options for how you want to go about learning about birth, and at the suggestion of our midwives, we decided on a middle-of-the-road series of classes. It’s a six-week series that will teach us about all kinds of birth options—natural, medicated, and everything in between. It was very important to me to not be in a natural-only or a medicated-only birth class. I’m not ruling out any of my birthing options, and I want to know as much as I can about all the options. I’ve never done this before, and I have no idea how I’ll react to childbirth. So my only idea of a “perfect” birth is one where Baby J comes out healthy. That’s it. And I think pretending that I have control over the process to get there is setting myself up for disappointment. So I figure the best way to get myself prepared for birth is to be educated about all the different directions it could go, instead of getting my heart set on one way or another.

Alright, I think that brings you up to date! I’m gonna go sew some curtains. Have an awesome weekend!

Anyone doing anything fun this weekend?

Cassie is the founder and CEO of Wholefully. She's a home cook and wellness junkie with a love of all things healthy living. She lives on a small hobby farm in Southern Indiana with her husband, daughter, two dogs, two cats, and 15 chickens.

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  1. On the car/road thing – I’m not sure how long your road is, but I can remember my parents driving up and down our private road repeatedly during snowstorms so that they could get out for work in the morning. That could be something to help if your road isn’t too long!

    Our 2005 Ford Explorer Limited was the best vehicle in the snow that we’ve ever driven. During a big snow storm a few years ago, my husband was actually pushing other people’s stuck cars out with our Explorer (and a blanket wedged between the vehicles). It was the safest I had ever felt in a vehicle.

    You look fantastic! So cute 🙂

  2. I totally get the keeping the baby name private online thing. It’s something I’ve been thinking a lot about lately also. Glad to hear you’re in good spirits — so sorry to hear about the rough pregnancy you’re having.

    Enjoy the birth classes and baby center tour and fair!

  3. You are absolutely adorable! I don’t have much to offer on this topic, as I’m not pregnant and I have never been pregnant but I do love reading how you’re doing and your experiences during pregnancy. 🙂

  4. We were a one car family for about a year and a half before we had our baby — and although I hate having the car payment, we certainly NEEDED that second car. And we don’t live in the country like you do! I definitely think it’s a wise decision, and in the later years, when you’ve got a kid(s) in various after-school activities we’ll probably benefit as well!
    I couldn’t agree more about your “I just want a healthy baby to be born” position on labor and childbirth. There is so much pressure on us a new moms to begin with, and I hated that I felt like I was going to do things the “wrong” way with childbirth too. We also took classes that covered unmedicated/home/tub/hospital/medicated births, and while I didn’t feel confident in telling other people what we decided to do, I felt confident that we were making the best decision for us. (A few months after our son was born, I shared my story — an elective induction in a hospital with an epidural — but I do still feel like there’s stigma against what we chose & that people don’t think my labor/delivery experience really “counts” because I didn’t do it the “regular” way. In the end, I think every family needs to do what is best for them, and whatever your physician/midwife/doula considers best for mom & baby!

    1. Rashada

      All 3 of my deliveries were technically elective induction and Wow was I on board with the epidural for the 2nd and 3rd (had it with the first, was just needle phobic, but I got over it fast).

      With my pregnancies I was past my expected due dates, my dr was on call that night, and when they hooked up the monitors at the hospital discovered I was already starting to contract.

      So it was just about time to do it naturally anyway, but I felt more comfortable having MY doctor deliver due to some previous delivery complications she and I had spoken at length about.

      I never expected I would go the induction route for all 3, but I feel it was very much the right choice for us.

      I try very hard to be understanding and non-judgmental about how people decide to give birth. I’m sorry to hear people give you a hard time about not having a ‘real’ labor/delivery.

  5. Crystal C.

    Even though my son is almost a year old, I still enjoy reading pregnancy blog updates like these! We bought a used Honda CRV right before I got pregnant, and so far it’s been a great 4 wheel drive car for our family, and big enough for the carseat, baby bag, stroller in the back, etc.

    As far as labor goes, I was really nervous about it, and was not opposed to an epidural or anything, but agreed with you, that a healthy baby was the end goal, so whatever it took to make that happen was going to be okay. I ended up having to deliver 6 weeks early, unexpectedly, and had to have an epidural and C-Section, which wasn’t what I had “planned” but was safest for baby and myself, and ended up being just fine The day he was born was actually the day we were supposed to start out birthing/labor classes…oops. Needless to say, we cancelled since they seemed unnecessary after the fact. We did go to a class about taking care of baby (home safety, bathing, what to do when they’re sick, etc.) the week after he was born, while he was still in the NICU, and that was really helpful since my husband and I knew nothing about babies. We were the only parents in the class who weren’t currently pregnant, and the lady teaching the class was great and tailored some of the information to premature babies, which was super helpful and reassuring for us.

    I hope you have a great third trimester! I really enjoy reading your blog, even if I don’t comment much, and I’m sure you will love life with new baby and your family of (soon-to-be) 3. 🙂

  6. I just found your blog as I am a fellow finalist in the bloggies. I am also pregnant and just 1 week ahead of you so it’s interesting to read your pregnant posts and can relate to a lot. My MS also dragged into the 2nd trimester but leveled off – luckily. I’m so sorry yours is continuing into the 3rd. MS is horrible to deal with and get little sympathy.

    All the best. I love your blog and awesome design. Jen

  7. cass, i know everyone probably has a different opinion, but my dr told me to eat a little something, protein based before my glucose test. i had a scrambled egg before i went and had no issues. i think the most important thing is to have SOMETHING in your stomach bc if you were to get sick, i would think the test would be thrown out. just my two cents. everyone has an opinion about everything pregnancy/parenting related. 🙂

    1. Cassie

      I’ve read that in a few places, but they said pretty strictly not to eat anything (even drink water!) after midnight. But I really don’t think there is anyway the test is going to go well if they make me chug gross liquid after not eating for 8+ hours. I might sneak a hard boiled egg or something before I leave.

      1. Jen

        Honestly, it’s a load of bollocks. I did a glucose screening at my very first appointment because they were worried about my weight (5’7″, 230lbs…I’m a powerlifter). I had eaten 2 eggs and some bacon that morning and they still had me do it and said it was fine.

      2. Hmm that’s odd. With my first three children I was told not to eat or drink anything before hand however with my 4th child (6 months ago) I was told it was fine to eat before hand as long as the lab tech knew. New research has been published and so the guidelines changed (I am in Canada). I threw up until I delivered with my first pregnancy and again with my 4th- it sucks but within hours of giving birth I was completely better! And the glucose drink stayed down every time.

      3. Kay

        Wow, this is weird but I delivered in 2002 and I did not have to fast for my test…..
        Also, I had a long and painful delivery and have always said that I would much rather experience that over and over again than the morning sickness. So, IMO you’ve gotten through the “worst”of it!

        Oh, and I live in an area of New England where everyone drives a subaru…

  8. Barbara L

    I love following your blog, and your pregnancy. You look pretty and radiant.
    I agree with you, about exposing the baby on the internet. I’m a grandmother now, but if I was expecting a baby this day and time, I would not, post pictures, or give the child’s name. I tried to discourage my daughter, and daughter-in-law, but that didn’t help. They post the grandchildren’s pictures anyway.

    Take care, of yourself.

  9. You didn’t ask but I’m going to share my opinion- feel free to ignore it 🙂 Skip the blackout curtains. If baby learns to sleep no matter the light/no light around they will be better sleepers as toddlers and up. Same premise as not having the house totally silent when the baby sleeps.

    While everyone wants to have a healthy baby and to be healthy themselves after delivery I cringe when I hear people say that ‘all that matters is that baby was born healthy’. I’ve had 4 varying births and the way that the birth occurred mattered big time. From talking with other mothers who have had two or more children I know that I am not alone in this thinking. The way you feel afterwards physically, emotionally and mentally effects how you bond with baby and your risk for postpartum depression. The most positive birth experiences were ones where I made the decisions and felt that I was in control. An extensive knowledge and strong support people make all the difference. No matter what decisions you make about your labour, make the decisions ahead of time. When you are stressed, in pain and perhaps scared you can be talked into doing something differently than you want very easily.

    1. Cassie

      “When you are stressed, in pain and perhaps scared you can be talked into doing something differently than you want very easily.”

      I think the key here is that I’m not really going into labor with any expectation of what I want. I, quite honestly, have no pictures or dreams or ideas about what I want out of labor—other than a healthy baby. I’ve never been one of those women has always wanted a natural labor. Or one of those women who always knew she’d get an epidural. I’ve done the research, I trust my midwives and my labor support team, and I feel totally comfortable with the day going the way the day needs to go. It’s not that I’m putting my own wants and needs aside, the fact is, literally, my only want or need out of the day (or days) is getting Baby J out healthy and happy.

      1. Sarah

        I had the same attitudes as well and I feel confident that it went a long way in making labor, delivery, and recovery a really awesome experience.

  10. Have you considered Flickr for those private baby pictures to show family and friends? It’s pretty easy to use and you can decide for each picture who can see it.

    1. Cassie

      Oooh! No I haven’t! But that’s an awesome idea. My husband has a pro account already, but we’ve never really explored the private sharing options.

  11. Michelle

    First of all, congratulations on being in the third trimester! I read all of your blog posts (and those at the Broken Plow) but don’t usually comment.

    While I’m far from ready to have a child, I’ve done a lot of thinking about my future children’s privacy online, and I’m with you on keeping it low-key until they’re old enough to decide on their own (of course, like you said, maybe I’ll be so excited that I can’t resist sharing!). I’ve even mentioned to my boyfriend that when I have a child, I would want to kindly ask others to refrain from sharing pictures on facebook, etc. I know I’ll probably seem crazy since it’s become the norm to share anything and everything these days, but I care about my privacy, so I can only assume that my children would too.

    When my BF’s sister had her first child, she set up a private (password protected) Shutterfly page to share all the photos of her daughter. It sent out an email every week or so to any friends/family who wanted to sign up and see any updates.

  12. Rashada

    What carseat did you guys end up picking? I’m always curious (due to all the options out there) what people end up choosing.

    As for the car thing – I used to have a Subaru Forester (granted, it was a manual. no idea how the automatic handles the snow) and it was the best vehicle ever for unplowed snowy roads.

    I second Flickr. I don’t really used it personally, but I know a number of people who do.

    I’m sad to not get to know the awesome name you two have picked out, but I understand your stance on privacy for baby J.

  13. BethanyH

    I had SPD with both my pregnancies, I feel your pain! I heard a chiropractor who is trained for prenatal care can help, unfortunately I didn’t find anyone while I was pregnant and I still have lingering pain 2.5 years later if I sit on the floor for too long.

  14. Fleur

    I gotta say, I love your “middle of the road” thinking, not just in pregnancy, but with every-day life. It’s one of the big reasons I follow your blog. 🙂 Neither of my childbirth experiences were at all what I had envisioned, and I think it set me up for postpartum depression. What’s going to happen will happen. I think you’re very wise to be as educated as possible.
    I’m sorry to hear about your SPD pain. A massage therapist who is trained in prenatal and postpartum massage can really help. Even, and especially, if you’re still having problems down the road.

  15. I think what you decide to make public and not is completely your decision. You should only do what you’re comfortable with. We are the first generation to have to think through these issues and their implications…and it’s pretty difficult territory to navigate.
    In any case, so glad to hear that your pregnancy is progressing well, albeit with some sickness/aches and pains. Stay strong, girl! 🙂

  16. Congrats on reaching the third trimester! I stumbled upon this post while reading in my Zite app. I’m currently 35 weeks pregnant (today!) with baby #4, so pregnancy updates are fun to read as I’m in the same position! I love reading updates of first-time mamas so much because it’s such a magical time. I remember being pregnant with my first and those memories carry such an ethereal quality for me. I loved buying all the baby things, seeing baby on ultrasound, every step on the path to giving birth to our Henry. I blinked and he was seven. Anyway, I’m excited to now follow your journey. My blog has been neglected recently but I’m a contributor at Still Standing Magazine online, so I’ve been writing. I find it so cathartic, and healing in my case. I am so very excited to hold our baby boy, to nurse him (my three-year old weaned a few months ago), to wear him and hold him constantly. I’ve warned friends and family that I’m not putting him down or letting anyone else hold him for a long time. I’m kidding, but only kind of.

    P.S. I’m using hypnobirthing (the Mongan method) this time around and feel like it’s a great fit for me. You never know what will comfort you in birth until you’re IN IT. So the first time is tricky because you have no idea what will help. Great choice on learning about everything birth related in preparation. I used the Bradley method with my third and hated it, but now I know!

  17. Stephanie

    Hi, I just came across your website and saw this entry. I just wanted to say that during my pregnancy, I too suffered from SPD. Mine really kicked in about 18 weeks and when I complained about it, my midwife immediately directed me to a Physio with experience in such things. I saw her about twice a week at first then, then it would go to about once a week or every two weeks until I gave birth. Best thing I ever did. At my worst i was almost crawling to the bathroom in the middle of the night I could hardly walk, but working with her, I got to minimal discomfort (I will not say almost normal). I always had to watch myself, if I stepped too hard off a curb, it would jolt my pelvis into misalignment! The hardest was remembering to not cross my ankles when I sat..to have both feet flat on the floor in front of me, to not stand on one leg and shift my weight over (as when you put on pants, or standing for a bit of time), and to not twist as I got myself out of bed. She also gave me a belt that fit under my belly and compressed my pelvis a bit. After the birth, I saw her about twice. It made a huge difference. 5 years later, I have an occasional twinge, but no real after effects. It is really important to get it dealt with if you can manage, because I know that if I get pregnant again, it will come back with a vengeance!
    Good luck, I just wanted to let you know that you aren’t the only one, and it can be managed so you are more comfortable.

  18. Ashley

    I’m sorry you’re having a rough go of it, but as always your handling of the situation is graceful and humbling! Almost there!

    A friend of mine has a private Facebook page that only a select few can see. She requested that none of the photos be shared (I’ve never tried, but I’m not sure if you even can), because her MIL was posting ALL kinds of personal info about her and her kids on her own Facebook. Like, even going into details about their delivery and whatnot. Not okay. But the Facebook group seems to have worked for them so far!

  19. On the “not related to babies” front…could you please share instructions or a link for making one’s own black out curtains? They’re so expensive and our house has a ton of windows. I’d love to try making my own!

  20. Grunedda

    Yes! Taking care of my three grandchildren and their 26 weeks pregnant daughter carrying twins. All have Flu B! Grands ages 13, 5 and three. Prayers are welcome.

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