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If you and I were to sit down for coffee this morning, I’d start off by asking you how you are doing. I was such a bad listener last time. And I promised I’d be a much better friend this time.
So, how are you doing?
Good? Good! You’re so nice, you’d probably say something like, “You look great!” because that’s the kind of thing everyone says to a new mom—regardless of if it’s true or not. I’d thank you, and tell you that I’m starting to feel much more like myself. I’m still not finding a lot of time to workout, but I do try to walk every single day. And I’m trying to fuel my body with healthy food and drink lots of water. I’m slowly dropping weight (did I tell you I lost ten pounds in the past two months?), but I’m not so worried about that. I’m mostly just happy that I’m starting to feel like myself again!
I’d tell you that you look great, too (and I’m not just saying that, you’re totally gorgeous), and you’d tell me about the new fitness class you’re going to. And then you’d invite me to go with you, and I’d be all over that. We’d make a sweat date for next week.
You’d, of course, ask about the baby girl—because she’s pretty much the most amazing thing on the planet and everyone is curious about her goingson. I’d tell you that she just turned four months old, and her personality is showing like crazy. She laughs out loud, blows raspberries, and screams (not cries…screams) with a fiery passion when she doesn’t like something. She’s a whopping 17 pounds and wearing 6-9 month clothes pretty exclusively. She’s also working hard on her two bottom front teeth.
Since you’re a totally confident parent, you’d probably give me some of your tried-and-true teething remedies. I’d be really thankful for the advice, but then sheepishly admit that teething hasn’t really been that bad for her so far. She’s had a few screamfests where she seems like she’s struggling—and those sucked—but overall, she’s still the super happy, smiling baby she normally is (except with two white-caps in that smile). I’d tell you that we have so much fun everyday with our little June Bug. I had a lot of preconceived notions about motherhood, but I had no idea it would be this much fun.
Then I’d knock on every piece of wood in the coffee shop.
I’d, of course, ask about your family. You’d tell me all about the way cool vacation you got back from. And then you’d give me the most perfect gift you picked up for me at a quirky little shop you found off-the-beaten path on your trip—because you’re thoughtful and sweet and pretty much the coolest person I know. I’d then take the opportunity to pull out a plain kraft paper bag for you and give you a few jars full of canned food from my stash (probably some spiced peaches, bread and butter pickles, and pickled watermelon rind). I hope you like them. I know the pickled watermelon rind sounds weird, but it’s really, crazy good.
I’d then confess that I’ve missed canning so much this season. I didn’t have the mental capacity this year to take on the kind of canning undertaking I like to do each year, but I have socked away a few things. I’m excited to get back to “normal” with food preserving next season. I already am starting garden plans (of course). I’d then ask you if there were any canned goods you’d want next year. I’m always taking requests!
On a not-so-positive note, I’d then rage spiral into complaining about all the things that have broken in our house in the past month. I’d tell you that it started with our washing machine crapping out (pun intended) in the middle of a load of diapers. Followed the next day by our bathroom fan stopping working. And then a few days later by an outdoor water leak (which required an emergency call to a plumber and a whole lot of digging). And now, finally, last week, we found out our chimney needs four-figures worth of repairs.
Since you’re so wise, you’d tell me that things like this happen in cycles and that we’re bound to be near the end of this one. You’d then offer to let me do a load of laundry at your house. I’d thank you, and then tell you it isn’t necessary because we sprung for a new fancy pants machine a few weeks ago, and it’s the bomb dot com. It even has it’s own iPhone app that it can “talk” to. Considering our washing machine that bit the dust was purchased by my grandparents when I was 11 years old—our new model is definitely an upgrade.
I’d tell you that even though I’m raging about all the stuff breaking in our house, it’s actually okay, because the universe gifted me a nicely-sized refund check from my labor (yes, I got a refund for childbirth—go figure) on the same day the washing machine broke. I had about 10 minutes of fantasizing on how I’d spend that surprise money on fun things before Craig told me the washing machine was broken. Life, right?
Then I’d realize how silly it was that I was so upset about life’s minor inconveniences—especially ones that we can afford to fix. I’d quickly change the subject and ask you if you’ve seen any good movies lately.
Speaking of movies, I’d tell you all about our new Friday night ritual. We bring my laptop into the nursery on Friday evenings, and while baby girl nurses to sleep, Craig and I watch a movie. We usually stick to kids movies, because even though logically, I get that June Bug is too young to understand what is going on (and we wear headphones and she’s sleeping), she’s a good excuse to watch all the fun Disney and Pixar movies we’ve missed over the past few years.
I’d move on to asking you about work. You’d probably complain about your boss (I’m sorry you’re stuck with such a jerk!), and I’d listen compassionately while you ranted, while secretly being so thankful that I don’t have to deal with office politics anymore. You ask me how being my own boss is going, and I’d admit that it is about 1000% more stressful than my office gig was, but it’s a healthy stress—if that makes any sense. I’d tell you that I can’t imagine ever going back to an office—I really thrive being able to wear all my different hats. I love that when people ask me what I do, my response is filled with slashes. Graphic designer slash food writer slash recipe developer slash photographer slash awesomeographer.
I’d tell you I’m so proud of my work to make my blog better. I had no idea it would go as well as it has been going. I feel really proud that I’ve been able to turn it into a a successful business without selling my soul. I am having so much fun with my blog again!
Speaking of work, I’d then tell you that I really need to do a better job of figuring out some kind of work-life balance. I’d ask for your advice on how to draw the line. I’d tell you that I desperately want to be an engaged and attentive parent, but I’m afraid that my work life might be detrimental to that. I think it’s good to show my daughter the importance of a strong work ethic, but I also think it’s important to model balance to her.
You’d laugh at me and say, “Welcome to the Mommy Guilt Club. Here’s your membership card.”
Because I can’t go more than 10 minutes without thinking about food, I’d ask you if you wanted to split one of those really decadent chocolate chip scones they have up at the counter. Then I’d remember they probably have dairy or soy in them, but since this isn’t reality, let’s just pretend I can eat dairy and soy in this realm. Let’s split a scone.
Speaking of food, I’d of course ask you if you’ve tried any good recipes lately. You’d tell me all about this super cool cookbook you found, and I’d, of course, ask to borrow it. Then you’d ask me what I was noshing lately, and I’d tell you that I’m trying really, really hard to kick my sugar habit. And try to replace all those sugary foods with some nourishing yummies. I’ve been eating a lot of salads, green smoothies, and anything with protein.
I’d then laugh at the irony of me downing a sugar-filled scone while I tell you all about how I’m trying to cut back on sugar. Hey, at least we’re splitting it, right?
When we both have finished the last remaining crumbs of our scone (it was so good!), I’d reluctantly tell you that I have to get going. I’m having a blast, but I miss my baby girl, and I’m sure she’s getting hungry. Maybe next time I’ll bring her along with me. It’s been so nice catching up with you! Give your family a hug for me. Until next time…
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I love these posts! :) Great catching up with you. :)
So fun to catch up with you! And you really look beautiful…you did before, too, but it’s been a while since we have seen each other! :-)
Split food totally doesn’t count. :) Thanks for the update!
I rarely sit down and read a blog post from beginning to end anymore. Its a time thing. But this one I did. Thanks for sharing. And if I ever find myself in Indiana with some time on my hands, we will meet up for a REAL coffee date!
I love these posts so much. It was great catching up with you! I hope one day we can do it in person.
Awesomeographer is a fabulous job title and fits you perfectly.
J hasn’t cared much about teething yet either and she’s on her 12th tooth. Other than some more fingers than usual in her mouth, we haven’t hit anything awful. Though I hear horror stories about the 2 year molars so I’ll hold off until she’s got all her teeth in. :)
And no, split food doesn’t count. Don’t you know all the calories escape when you break it open?
Obviously this isn’t the most important thing, but your glasses are great. Where did you get them?
They’re from Zenni Optical. :)
I can’t tell you how happy I am to hear that you are enjoying blogging again! I know you expressed sadness and frustration at it not being fun anymore.
You and June Bug look very happy in that photo of you wearing her on your back. Quick tip – put the waist band just under your bust (sternum ish level) to help boost her higher. She should be high enough that you can easily look over your shoulder and see her, and likewise she be able to look over your shoulder. Getting her high enough will help her body stay in a better position since she’s still so little. You would probably also discover that it’s more comfortable for you and easier to monitor her breathing, mood, etc).
You look like you are settling well into being a mother, and I know we aren’t seeing all the hard and messy moments, but she is clearly thriving and happy. She’s happy and healthy, you look beautiful and are able to see the future of returning to more of your ‘normal life’ things like gardening and canning. I’m very excited for you.
Thank you for the backwearing tips! We’re just starting to, and trying to get the hang of it still. :) Super helpful!
I have been back wearing in a variety of different carriers for nearly a year and a half and I am still learning!
You look like you’re doing a great job, and you’ll continue to improve as you get more experience.
I love our coffee dates… totally feel like I know you on a personal level.. So happy you are finding balance and doing what makes you happy :D
Oh, friend. Let’s split that dairy-free scone!
I am so so proud of you. You have such class and such perspective and I love that you take the challenging moments and make them not so challenging.
And that baby? Seriously. Could she BE any cuter! I can’t figure out which of you she looks more like. I’m so excited to watch her grow, Cass. So excited.
Things here are really stressful today. Tomorrow will be better, but today’s must-do is long. I’m glad I took the time to feed my soul with you and coffee. Decaf, though. I’m off the sauce. I didn’t like feeling like an addict.
Next time I see you, it’ll be Christmas time! I can’t wait for gingerbread houses and C’s booze/eggnog . And Matio Cart.
<3 <3 <3
I love these type of posts! :) Your little girl is growing like a weed! I’m so happy to hear that you’re enjoying blogging again, because truth be told, I love this space of yours and feared you might say goodbye. I do hope you can find that work/life balance you seek. I found out about a possibility of a work from home job with good opportunities and I’m so excited about it, something new, but not one of those hokey “I work from home and make 100K a year” jobs you find in newspaper ads type jobs. ;) What’s your number one tip for those who work from home? Maybe a post on that….if you haven’t already done that? That would be awesome!
I haven’t written a post about that, but I did write about what I learned in the first year—this might help: https://wholefully.com/2014/02/03/what-ive-learned-in-a-year-of-being-my-own-boss/
You look fabulous and happy and that baby is BEAUTIFUL!!!
Love this. Thanks so much for sharing your life with us!
These are some of my favorite posts! Yes, you look beautiful and thanks for the update!
I just adore these coffee dates!
That was an awesome coffee date! Let’s do it again soon! ;) (now if only in real life was a possibility!)
I love these posts Cassie!! Be proud of yourself. You’re doing amazing things!
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