For years, I’ve been trying to squeeze dollars and cents out of our grocery budget. I’ve seen all the super saver blogs out there where dedicated couponers feed their families of six for $200 a month (and a lot of them even do it with relatively healthy foods). For the longest time, I beat myself up about not being able to hit a lower total at the end of the month. I tried different challenges and tricks and coupons to hit a lower monthly grocery bill. And while it would work for short term, we always bounced back eventually to our big, hefty grocery budget once our pantry was bare and our palates were bored.
Honesty time: for our family of two, we consistently spend around $800 a month on groceries alone, and we live in a very low cost-of-living area of the country. And often, we spend a bit more than that. In fact, in 2013, we spent exactly $10,951.32 on groceries—just over $912 per month. We might eventually be able to lower that budget once our hobby farm is a bit more robust (we’re planning on adding animals next year—bees, goats, and chickens!), but for now, we’re hovering around $800 per month—and if we didn’t garden and preserve food, it would be a heck of a lot higher.
For years, I’ve been ashamed of our total. I know some folks would absolutely have a heart attack if they spent that much money on groceries in a month (although admittedly, in some areas of the world, it’s a reasonable—or even small—total). It always felt a little dirty to know that we had that big, cushy line in our monthly budget. But over the past year, I’ve come to accept our grocery budget is what is it is. And be okay with it.
From the outside, it can seem like that high of a total is the frivolous spending of two people who are financially blessed (which we are). Or the uneducated spending of two people who don’t menu-plan, buy tons of convenience foods, or don’t shop sales (none which are true—we are still definitely aware of which stores are, uh, pricier than others—I’m looking at you Whole Foods). But what that total actually is, is a reflection of the lifestyle of two people who freaking love food.
My grandfather had a lot of good-to-remember catchphrases when he was around, and the one that is the most fitting here is this: If you want to know what’s important to someone, just look at where they spend their money. And the truth is, food is vitally important to Craig and me. Not just from a nourishment standpoint, but as a hobby, a career, a type of health insurance, and a bonding-experience. Sure, we could probably feed our tiny family for a couple hundred bucks a month and satisfy the basic nourishment category, and we have during tight times in the past, but in doing that, we lose all the other wonderful things that we love about shopping, cooking, and eating food. Yes, I could sufficiently feed us healthfully by making beans and rice every day. But it certainly wouldn’t be fun for us. And right now, we are fortunate enough to have the room in our budget to account for fun. And our fun is our food.
It’s taken me years to accept that it’s okay to put money into something that is important to us, even if it means taking money out of areas that aren’t as important to us—and maybe are important to others. Our monthly entertainment budget is a whopping $20 a month (no going out to eat or going to see movies for us). We don’t have cable anymore. We don’t have a gym membership. It takes us years and years to save up to go on vacations. But what we do have? A really healthy, comfortable grocery budget that brings us joy each week. A budget that is cushy enough that we feel like we can buy all the organic, local, and healthy food we want. A budget that makes it so much fun to go grocery shopping each week (seriously, it’s such a fun outing for us).
This isn’t me saying that food should be that important to you. Maybe it isn’t. And that’s totally cool. Maybe you don’t get giddy when you walk into the local health food store (Craig and I do). Maybe you don’t get excited to plan your menu every week (I do). Maybe going to the farmer’s market isn’t a social event for you (it is for us). Maybe your family celebrations don’t revolve around good food at the dinner table (ours do). Maybe you haven’t watched every single food-related documentary on Netflix (I have). For you, what is important might be a different category in your budget—eating out, traveling, shopping, seeing movies or plays.
But what I am saying is that I’m coming out of hiding. I’m stopping shaming myself for spending so luxuriously on food. Because it’s what’s important to us, and that makes it okay.
In related programming news, I’ve often wanted to (and have a few times) share what I bought when I went grocery shopping. But the few times I did it, I got push-back because of our large budget. And while I hate the idea of making people feel guilty for not having that ability (I never want you to feel like you have to live your life like mine—what works for me may or may not work for you), I always thought it was a fun little look into our everyday lives. And it was something I always loved seeing on other blogs. It’s the foodie equivalent of beauty or fashion haul videos! Would you guys be interested in me bringing that back? I was also thinking about wrapping it into the same post where we share our menu for that week. So you see what we’re going to eat—and the foods we bought to make that happen. You won’t hurt my feelings if you tell me no—it’s entirely possible I’m the only one who is a weird grocery cart voyeur.
And now I’m off to go make a grocery list.