New year’s resolutions have taken a lot of flack in the past few years. And I can see why. We are constantly bombarded with messages that we aren’t enough, and resolutions can feel like just another brick on the pile of ways we’re told we need to be more/better/smaller/bigger/quieter/louder—just different from how we are.
I think the backlash against resolutions has been positive in a lot of ways. It makes me so happy that folks are now more mindful of how goal-setting fits in the bigger picture of self-love and self-respect. That being said, girrrrrrrllll, I love me some new year’s resolutions!
For me, gone are the days where I set outlandish goals without much substance (“be a size 8 by my birthday!”) and instead, resolutions for me have become a way of gently guiding my upcoming year. It’s not about drastically changing who I am, what I look like, or what I do—it’s about giving myself some clear concepts to focus my energy on. I think there is real value in having a general set of guiding principles, and I see new year’s resolutions just as that—a set of flexible guidelines to help me rock the next 365 days of my life.
Most important for me and my mental health, there is no “failure” when it comes to my resolutions. As long as I am following the general map, enjoying the journey, growing, and evolving—I’m a success. Period. There is no all-or-nothing when it comes to my new year’s resolutions.
Ready to hear what I’m focusing on in 2018?